My sister and her husband are buying a new home, and my sister is a bit stressed out over all the decisions to be made: paint colors, carpet, tile, furniture.
Chances are, you’ve been in the same situation – bombarded by decorating magazines, home and garden shows, and an overabundance of information on the internet. (The irony that I am adding to said abundance with this article is not lost on me!)
There are so many choices, and so many RULES! Which colors go together? Which ones don’t? Is nylon carpet “better” than polyester? (Answer: It depends!) Can you mix black wooden living room furniture with brown dining furniture?
If you feel like tearing your hair out, it’s totally understandable!
Here’s my advice for making the decorating process more fun and less stressful:
1. FORGET THE RULES!!! When I was in design school, the first thing I learned was all the rules. The next thing I learned was how to break all the rules. Great designers break the rules. Unimaginative designers who just want to “play it safe” follow the rules. So – be a great designer! When it comes to colors, patterns, styles, etc., the most important thing is that YOU like it. It’s YOUR house, being viewed by YOUR eyes. So it doesn’t matter whether your neighbor likes your decorating scheme. It doesn’t matter if your room doesn’t look like the cover of a magazine. Be brave, be free, be true to yourself! Do YOU like it? Are YOU comfortable in it? Can YOU function in it the way YOU want to? If your answers are yes, yes, and yes, then you’ve done it right!
2. Do research, but not in the wrong places. So, what’s the wrong place to do research? Public chat rooms or “answers” sites where people post questions and anyone on the planet can post an answer. DO NOT rely on opinions from total strangers who are unskilled or inexperienced with the product and have their own agenda to promote. Chat rooms can be entertaining, but for serious research, ask an expert. If you’re choosing carpet, for example, research the properties of nylon versus polyester, ask a couple of flooring experts for their opinion on the specific carpet that you are considering, find out what the stain resistant qualities and warranty are, and you’re pretty much ready to make a decision.
3. Be prepared for the fact that things may take longer and cost more than you anticipate, and that problems will crop up. Perfection rarely exists in this world, especially in the design world, where the perfect carpet gets discontinued the day before you order it, your dining table is on backorder for 9 weeks, and two defective doors on your new kitchen cabinets need to be sent back to the manufacturer for replacement. If you expect perfection, you are going to be super-stressed out when it doesn’t happen. And believe me, with a quarter-century of experience in this business, I can tell you without the shadow of a doubt, perfection does NOT happen. It doesn’t. Sorry. Wish it did (really!), but it doesn’t. So, expect that there will be problems, hiccups, and even some disappointments, and you’ll be prepared to roll with the punches and keep moving forward without your blood pressure skyrocketing. (Important Note: Stroke level blood pressure will NOT make your dining table arrive any sooner. It will NOT make the carpet manufacturer start up their looms and run off a roll of that discontinued color just for you. It might land you in the hospital, though. You don’t want to spend your money on a hospital bill for a stroke, right? You want that money for more decorating! So think happy thoughts. You’ll get through this. Just breathe. Breathing is an important component of the design process!)
4. Be willing to wait. If you can’t find the right furniture set, the right curtains, the right bedspread, wait a couple of months. New lines come out all the time. You don’t have to settle for something that you are less than happy with. You don’t have to have your whole house perfect and complete right now. Just wait for the new season of merchandise to be rolled out, and try again. One of my clients had an empty dining room for nearly two years, until we finally found a table set that they were totally in love with. That was three years ago. They still love their set – it was worth the wait!
5. Using a professional designer/decorator isn’t a bad idea, either (hint, hint)! We’re here to help you weed through that information overload, make sure you are properly informed, give you our professional advice, be your cheerleader, talk you down off the ledge, and go to bat for you – and that will go a long way towards lowering your stress levels!
About me: I am Alexandra Whiteside, CPC, “The Lady Contractor.” I’m an interior designer, Virginia Class A general contractor, and certified life coach specializing in creating joyful residential environments. I own and operate Chelsea Custom Contracting & Chelsea Design Studio. Feel free to call me for design advice, remodeling, and personal/professional development coaching! Long distance clients are welcome! 757 407-2653